generally have two kinds of needs during a home
purchase. First are the transactional needs, such as
searching for a home, obtaining financing, negotiating
the terms of purchase, completing paperwork and legal
documents, and arranging the move. The second are
emotional needs that are involved in a home purchase,
which can be where the most stress occurs in a home
purchase. The following are just a handful of tips to
help you and your family ease the stress of moving.
Although you may have
lived in your current residence for just a few years,
the same few years can be half the lifetime of a seven-
or eight-year-old, and can include all the years he or
she can remember. Your current residence may be the only
home your children have ever known, where they feel safe
and comfortable. It may be the center of your childrens'
Be sure to announce the
move in a completely positive way. You might talk about
how beautiful the neighborhood is and how good the
schools are. Bring your children to the new house, if
you live close enough that it is possible to do so.
Otherwise, positively describe the new house. Find out
what your children's favorite things are in your current
home, and then try to re-create them in the new home.
Keep your children actively involved in the process. For
instance, don't just promise that they can decorate
their new rooms, but take them shopping for paint,
bedspreads, carpets, and other items that will make the
experience more fun and comforting.
Your children are bound
to have worries, fears, and sorrows during the move.
They may be moving away from friends and family they
have known their whole lives. Find ways to make parting
pleasant. You can plan a going-away party and let your
children invite their own guests. Take pictures of
everyone and create a photo album. If your children are
old enough, allow them to take pictures of the
neighborhood that they will want to remember.
You may feel a sense of
being out of control, as though other parties to the
purchase transaction are running the show and you're
merely getting in their way. Your mortgage company, the
appraiser, the inspector, and the seller all have
certain powers to approve or disapprove of your overall
plan to purchase this home and move successfully. This
is certainly not easy!
Although this can feel
stressful, one of the best things you can do for your
own peace of mind is to understand as much of the
purchase process as possible. Your RealtorŪ will be
able to prepare you for unknowns ahead of time and tie
down loose ends as soon as possible.
There can be so much to
do that it's easy to panic. It may feel like you're
taking a big risk, but the truth is that you're
initiating a big opportunity for you and your family.
Even though you can't predict what will happen every
step of the way, your RealtorŪ helps people buy and
sell homes as a profession! Your RealtorŪ has been
there before and understands that this is a major
upheaval in your life. Trust that your RealtorŪ is
looking out for you on your way to a successful closing
Knowing that your
RealtorŪ will do everything possible to prepare you for
the various processes involved in your home purchase,
and will tie up those loose ends quickly and
efficiently, it's important for you to remember that
there is no such thing as a perfect world. The property
inspection may reveal areas of concern, or closing may
be delayed for some reason. Try to take a deep breath
and be flexible in your thinking. You will have a much
greater chance of making your decisions based on logic
and not high emotion.
feel that things are spinning out of control, find a
diversion! Take a walk around your new neighborhood, go
on a day trip out of town with your family, or take your
family to a movie. Whatever diversion or outlet works
best for you, this is a good time to engage in it!
Remember to take one "move" at a time.